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Five Secrets That Everyone Should Know When Getting a Divorce

Hi everyone this is Divorce Games talk and I am Lisa. Look it does not matter which side of the table you are on as my goal is to help you in dividing assets, liabilities and child-rearing responsibilities as the stakes are high and the rules are ambiguous. We are not talking about preschool here. I mean we are talking about actual money, little human beings, and physical things. It is personal and it is winner takes all. So let’s get down to business. Look, I am not an attorney nor am I giving legal advice. All I know is that I don’t hold the legal establishment in the highest regards. I am not even talking about divorce. I have had many instances in my career where I have had to work with attorneys, and seriously I am not feeling any warm fuzzies for this profession. So, if you’re an attorney, you already know your profession needs some serious housekeeping. Today, I would like to tell you some secrets that you need to know before you get divorced.

Secret number one: Your and your soon to be ex-spouse’s attorneys love you both to be and continue to be dysfunctional. They love when you fight and love when you can’t agree. This is their secret to collecting as much of your cash as possible.

Secret number two: Attorneys are just consultants. They will charge you an hourly rate, but you can’t see if they are actually working on what they say they are working on or the amount of time they say they have worked on it. They will give you advice on how you should do this or that. They will quote some laws that even Google finds difficult to locate. Oh, and the biggest secret is that laws are up for interpretation by the one who holds the gavel. So, an attorney’s advice is based on their knowledge and experience regarding what that particular judge’s point of views are or are not.

Secret number three: If you disagree with your attorney or they do a bad job you have little recourse to get your money back or even sue them. There is no money back guarantee with this profession. This is why attorneys ask for a large retainer fee up front. This is probably to prevent you from walking away when you realize they are causing more problems and providing fewer solutions. There are countless bad attorney stories. Just go find someone who has gotten divorced and asks them what their experience was like.

Secret number four: There are other avenues to help you get divorced without fighting it out with opposing attorneys.

· o Hire a paralegal to fill out your decree and file the paperwork o Hire an attorney to just partially represent you only on the questions you need answering o Use Online divorce sources that cost a fraction of what you would pay by hiring legal representation o Use a mediator who will sit between your spouse and you to help you craft your settlement ( not to be confused with collaborative law)

Secret number five: Divorce is never split 50/50.

Look here is the truth when a divorce occurs, it is usually due to someone who is extremely selfish and wants it their way. When you add children to the mix, they are used as weapons by spouses and hired attorneys. Divorces without children usually are not complicated unless each party chooses to fight over things that either depreciate or lose sentimental value over time. If you really decide that divorce is the only option then I want you to use Divorce Games to make the right choices without having to run up credit cards, take out loans, or claim bankruptcy all because of a corrupt and selfish legal system. I want you to organize your facts and help you follow sequential steps. This will prevent you from being forced into a financial position where you are bullied into making bad decisions. The truth is that you can structure your decree any way you want. You just have to get the other party to agree. Emotions never win, but facts and numbers do. So, take a look at Divorce Games and see if it can help you make stronger agreements for the divorce settlement you want.

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